What Happens After The Spanking?
I have been talking to a couple of people recently, not at the same time, about the many activities and details that go along with this thing we do, and I will share some information that I discovered during those conversations.
For starters, despite my best efforts over the past 10 or 12 years, I have not as yet communicated to everyone on the planet just how the process of spanking a girl works for me in ideal circumstances.
Not that the procedure is rocket surgery, and in most cases the physical, mechanical act of spanking a girl is quite easy and routine – on my part anyhow.
It is true that I have given numerous party spankings, attentive spankings, and other just for fun, just because spankings, but a real spanking, that is, one with a point and a purpose, is much more complicated.
Complicated does not necessarily mean difficult, but if I have a reason to spank a girl, there is a process that must be followed, and I will tell you what that is because as I said, apparently my way of spanking a girl who needs and deserves a spanking is not the universal norm, if you can imagine that.
First let me point out that the classy terms used here are not necessarily ones I came up with, nor in fact did I ever take the time to think about and label the parts of the procedure in this way, so I have someone else to thank for the succinct nomenclature.
Let us assume then that I have a reason to spank a girl. Perhaps she left the house to grab the mail from the box at the end of the driveway dressed only in a long t-shirt without even any panties on underneath, after I specifically told her not to. We will call that the transgression.
When she returns, I scold her, she makes excuses – ‘Well, I didn’t think you were serious!’ – and I spank her, and at the same time telling her off for acting so defiant, on her conveniently bare bottom. That is the punishment.
Once the sting in her bottom is sufficiently intense, or perhaps even before, since she is a smart girl, she realizes the error of her ways and says she is sorry. After another little while, when her bottom is quite a bit warmer and she has convinced me that she really is sorry, we have reached the stage called contrition.
At that point I relent, and the punishment is over, unless I decide to make sure of her contrition and put her into the corner to think about what she did. But in this instance we will accept her contrition as real, and continue to forgiveness.
When a girl does wrong and has atoned, it is imperative to forgive her, to accept her apology, and to give her, along with myself, closure, so that the episode can be relegated to the past and is no longer an issue.
And then finally, once her apology is accepted, there must be reconciliation between the two of us.
I kiss her, I cuddle her, possibly I do other sorts of conciliatory activities with her or to her. It is up to me and to her the form that the conciliation takes, but it must happen; there must be a return to the normal state of our relationship.
So there in brief, and again with some really helpful labels, is how most of my disciplinary spankings, whether literary or actual, are carried out.
In some instances, however, particularly in Corporal Idaho and other institutional writings, the forgiveness part is rather glossed over, but even in those instances there is closure, and a form of reconciliation, in that the inmate is sure at least that this particular episode is finished, and she can return to her cell, or in any case get away from Cameron’s attentions.
But on the whole, this is and always has been my pattern for spanking a girl – transgression, punishment, contrition, forgiveness, and reconciliation. That is how I learned that it should properly be done at a very early age, from very able and very loving teachers, and it stayed with me.
Because the best and perhaps the only way that anyone can really follow this pattern in spanking, is to do so with love.
That is all.